I stumbled upon The Logan Family Blog, while on Pinterest, and just had to share her post about A Child’s Ten Commandments to Parents by Dr. Kevin Leman.
7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me to fail, so that I can learn from my mistakes. Then someday I’ll be prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me.
- Pick your battles and give choices. For most days my son picks out his outfit. We have only weather appropriate clothing out for him to choose. It is a small choice he is making, that doesn’t really affect me. We give my son a choice to either hold our hand and walk or sit in the cart/stroller. He is safe either way, but the choice is his. By giving them choices, you are teaching them to think for themselves.
8 Please don’t do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didn’t quite measure up to your expectations. I know it’s hard, but please don’t try to compare me with my brother or sister.
- We each have our own way of doing things. It doesn’t make their way wrong, just different. Children notice if you redo what they have already done. It can make them feel like they are doing it wrong. Instead, teach them and educate them on how it is done in your house, or let it go and enjoy that they are doing things. Remember that each child is different and not to compare.
Do you have any personal experience with any of these? If so, please share! Be on the look out for further detail on each commandment!