Unilateral Decision Making in Marriage

My husband and I were having a “conversation” recently about an old issue. You know the kind that goes underground for a while and you think it’s no longer an issue. Until a trigger comes up and you realize you still have feelings about this that are not resolved. I wanted to go camping. He didn’t. I broached the subject with him several times and … Continue reading Unilateral Decision Making in Marriage

10 things you can do for someone recovering from surgery, the elderly or infirmed.

 If you’re like me, when your friend is in need, you want to do something to help but you’re not sure what. In 2017 I had spinal surgery that kept me home for about 9 weeks.  The outpouring I received from friends, church groups and family left me feeling so grateful. And gave me some ideas for how to pay it forward. There are plenty … Continue reading 10 things you can do for someone recovering from surgery, the elderly or infirmed.

Just a pair of shoes

They’re just a pair of shoes. Bronze sandals with sparkly buckles. They’re comfortable and cute. But that’s not what sets them apart from my other shoes. Whenever I slip into them, I remember that I bought them in a little boutique in Sea Isle, New Jersey 2 years ago when shopping with Angel. We both bought a pair of upscale shoes. She said, “These are … Continue reading Just a pair of shoes

Grieving A Lifelong Friendship.

Angel and Angela. Angel and Angela. Angela. I’m still in denial about my friend Angel’s death, the first stage of grief according to Kubler-Ross.  She recently passed away from cancer, her third bout. We graduated from high school in 1976. And after that, every time I’d run into someone from the our Philadelphia neighborhood, they would always ask, “How’s Angel?” No matter how much time had … Continue reading Grieving A Lifelong Friendship.

The grieving – is it ever over?

Did you think it would be over? After the funeral? The weekend after my mom died, there was my niece’s wedding. And a trip to Cape May to celebrate our 8th wedding anniversary. And work. And planning the funeral. My energy poured into planning the funeral, the final thing I would do for my mom. Choosing the songs, the readings. What would mom want? And … Continue reading The grieving – is it ever over?