Ever since I became a parent I am always looking for new ways to handle situations with my children. Each person parents in a different way, even if the parenting style is the same. With this I am always amazed to hear one of my friends talk to her children. She is always so positive and always compliments them when they do a good job. … Continue reading Sandwich approach….
Sometimes children are not simply being disobedient, sometimes they are out of control because they are hungry or very tired. My son gets “mean” when he’s really tired. He’ll say mean things or anger easily. Rather than yell because he’s being “bad” I’ll acknowledge that he’s tired and let him know that it’s inappropriate for him to act this way because of it. Then make … Continue reading Positive Talking vs. Negative Talking
Positive Parenting is not something that you can fake, it is something that parents have to believe in. You discipline in a gentle and respectful way as opposed to disciplining out of fear. You encourage your children. Parents believe in every opportunity to teach their children instead of punishing them. By teaching them you are helping them develop responsibility, honesty, respect, and confidence. You are able to … Continue reading Positive Parenting
Last week we found out what punishments really teach children. So what are we suppose to do instead? Below is the same list with alternatives to parent positively. If your child hits another child, do not hit them as punishment. This only teaches them that it is ok if you are bigger than they are. Instead, use your words and inquire about the incident. Most children hit … Continue reading Punishment: What to do Instead
Positive parenting is the belief that a child can be disciplined in a positive encouraging way without punishments. Punishments, like time-out, spanking, only show children unnatural consequences to their behavior, it does not tell them why it is wrong, nor does it allow them to figure it out themselves. Punishments only stop the immediate behavior, they do not teach what behavior you want. Below are some … Continue reading Punishments: What They Really Teach Children
Remember when scolding to attack the behavior, not the child. Instead of “You were a bad girl” change to “You did a bad thing”. The behavior was bad but the child is intrinsically good and would benefit from separation of behavior and person. Let’s fill out children’s head with the belief that they are good people who sometimes make mistakes (just like us!). Angela DiCicco Continue reading Scolding your Children