In the past 5 years, I have married off 2 daughters and planned my own wedding. I’ve learned a few things along the way that I’m willing to share. Read on…..
6 Of the Best Wedding Tips Ever! Planning for the BIG DAY? .
- Avoid the hassle of the big day altogether. Elope. Plan a destination wedding and say, “We’re getting married, here’s the time and place if you want to join us!”
People become possessed around weddings! Brides dig their heels in, parents want to put their two cents in (I’m guilty!), in-laws aren’t sure they want to attend at all. Seriously, someone took over my daughter’s body during the months preceding her wedding! Afterwards, she said to me, “I don’t know what I was thinking! That wedding wasn’t me at all!” Really? Mmmmmm.
- Why spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars on a dress that you will wear only once (unless you’re like me – I put my dress on every anniversary until it no longer fit!) Plenty of sites have dresses you can rent or purchase used! Check out: http://www.weddingdressmarket.com/designers.php. Last season’s Alfred Angelo for $500! I guarantee no one at your wedding will know the difference!
- If you’re going to put the time, money and energy into a really great affair, do yourself a favor and get the BEST DJ possible! And then save time for the best part of the reception – the dancing! I’ve been to sit-down dinners that lasted until 10:00pm, followed by the first dance, the toss bouquet, throwing the garter, cutting the cake. And then what? An hour of dancing? Would you prefer several hours of eating or several hours of dancing? Well, preferably both, but if you have to choose…..
- If you wake up the morning of the wedding wondering whether or not you should marry this person – put the brakes on! Wedding jitters may be normal, but not being sure you’re making the right decision marrying this person – well, go with your gut! It’s usually right!
- Realize that you cannot go back and have a redo. (I continually cautioned my daughters on this point.) Are you SURE you want to have a church wedding when getting married barefoot on the beach is more your style? Do you REALLY want to have a backyard wedding when you’ve always dreamed of a black tie event? Oh, and do you really want to not be talking to your mom the morning of the wedding???
- Take the day off after the wedding to relax. Start the honeymoon the following day. You won’t be sorry. Weddings are exhausting! (I’d love a poll on how many people went to bed too tired to consummate their marriage on their wedding night!) After months of planning and a whirlwind wedding day, you will be WORN OUT! These events are physically and emotionally draining and besides, the morning after is the MOST FUN! You get to open your gifts, relive the best parts of the wedding with the family and friends that are still in town and enjoy extending the celebration with brunch. I was always sorry at my first wedding that I missed the “after party.” I made sure I stuck around for my second wedding!